Bash Out Bullying

Over spring break my mom and I took a road trip to my favorite city, Atlanta, Georgia! I always say I should have been born there lol. I went to visit colleges, spend time with my friends, and shop of course! On our way to Atlanta we stopped to get breakfast in Nashville, Tennessee. While we were there we stopped to look at Tennessee State University and Fisk University. I met some very nice students who told me how their transition to college was. We arrived in Atlanta later that day, stopped to get dinner (crab legs, which is our favorite) and went straight to bed! Our second day in Atlanta I had a couple of school visits! First we had the opportunity to see Emory University, a liberal arts college in Atlanta, Georgia. I met some extremely nice people and my mom and I even met another mother/daughter duo on a college road trip too! We then had the opportunity to meet a family friend at Agnes Scott, an all girls college in Atlanta, Georgia as well. We saw the campus and had an amazi...

When you hear bullying you may automatically assume children are the only people that get bullied. That is simply not the case, bullying can happen as an adult too. This weeks blog is about bullying in that workplace. How does it happen? What do you do? What is workplace bullying? Some things that can happen in a workplace could be spreading rumors, undermining someone, unwarranted or undeserved punishment, withholding helpful information, etc. Being bullied at work can decrease work moral, increase stress, increase absenteeism, etc. If you are being bullied at work there are a few things you can do, keep a journal to document every act of bullying, keep copies of emails (or any form of communication) between you and the bully, and report the harassment to a manager in your workplace. Your workplace should be a kind environment, you should encourage and uplift your coworkers! Always remember to treat others how you want to be treated!  Stay Strong & Stay Positive, Courtney Jay ...

As I said last week, this weeks blog is about boys and their behavior in bullying. If you have a little brother, son, or mini-me this blog is for you! Here are some things to look out for if you suspect boy bullying: - physically harassment among each other (pushing, shoving, etc.) - intimidating each other with threats - shaming victim in front of others The difference between boy and girl bullying is boys are more likely to bully in person while girls bully more online. Boys commonly gang up on one victim and use physical violence.  By talking to them you can help them through their situation. If you know a boy who is being bullied or even a boy who is a bully simply talk to them and remind them the effects bullying can have. If you are the older brother or mentor to a boy share this with them and provide some words of wisdom! Stay Strong & Stay Positive, Courtney Jay 💜

You may have a little sister, "mini-me", or a daughter. Are they being bullied? Well this blog is for them! Girls bully very differently than boys which is why I split these blogs into two weeks.  Here are some things to look out for if you suspect girl bullying: - they spread rumors  - they often verbally harass  - girl groups gang up on one individual - emotional violence  - cruel jokes or mocking  Look out for these common factors among your daughters, "mini-me", or little sister. By simply talking to them you can help them through their situation. I am very close to my mom and she helps me with her words of wisdom. I have little cousins who I help as much as I can as well. Next week we will talk about boy bullying so stay tuned!   Stay Strong & Stay Positive,  Courtney Jay 💜

Hi Bashers! This week we are going to talk about some lasting impacts of bullying. There are so many people that think the victims gets over it which is not always the case. Bullying can cause long term issues that may require counseling or therapy. - More than 4,000 teens commit suicide a year due to bullying. - Some people suffer stress related illnesses such as: anxiety, panic attacks, stomach issues, and depression. - Many students who are bullied have a decrease in their academic performance, and have a desire to skip school or drop out. I hope that simply after reading these few facts, you will understand that bullying is harsh. You should always be kind to others because you don't know their situation. Thanks for reading and stay tuned next week for another letter!  Stay Strong & Stay Positive, Courtney Jay 💜

This weeks blog is a letter to my bystanders. As I stated a few blogs ago according to  Merriam - Webster dictionary a  bystander is:  a person who is standing near but not taking part in what is happening.  Dear Bystanders, You all were my friends, but you were also the friends of my bully. You saw me be tormented, embarrassed, and humiliated daily. I'm not sure if you ever told them to stop, but it didn't seem like it . I  understand if you were torn on choosing friends, but why did you always choose the bully over me. Is it because you wanted to be in the "in-crowd"?  When we were in private you would express your sympathy, but made excuses about why you never said anything. You said things like you don't want to be picked on too or left out . I looked to you all for a shoulder to lean on, or some support, but you were never there.  Looking back on it, you all really made a difference in my life. You all taught me another important life lesson, to...

Dear BFF Turned Bully,      On the first day of 7th grade I knew we would be the best of friends. We did so many things together we were almost like sisters. We had sleepovers on school nights, went to concerts together, carpooled to school, and dressed alike to school pretty often. I trusted you and would tell you every detail of my life. I knew you would never leave my side and you soon proved me wrong.      To this day I have never really gotten a chance to talk to you. To tell you all the pain you put me through, the tears you created, or the trust issues you caused that I am still getting through. You made me feel so small, like I was worthless. I spent many lunches in bathrooms, the library, or just by myself. I want to know were all those mean things you said and did worth it? I often wonder, how does this make you feel? Why did you turn all of my friends against me? To this day you still never told me exactly what I did to you.     ...