Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Did You Make The Clique ?

Exclusion is one of the top ways someone can be bullied. It is easily confused with the idea that everyone does not have to be friends. Exclusion is seen in both boys and girls, but more commonly girls. This creates an outlet for girls to use the term "clique". Cliques can also be known as, "our crew", "our clan", "our gang" or "our circle". Now what exactly is a "clique"? A clique a small group of people, with shared interests or other features in common, who spend time together and do not readily allow others to join them. Cliques are commonly found in high school, but they are also prevalent in middle school and even elementary school! I have experienced exclusion from several different cliques first hand. Sometimes exclusion is unintentional and people are simply afraid to branch out. Other times people intentionally leave if someone out because they are not "cool" enough or they are a "nerd". Sometimes if you are in a clique you do not realize that you are leaving others out. Here are a couple examples, if a group of people are at lunch and there are four people sitting at another table, then one of the clique members invites only three of the four people to eat with them. Another example of a clique would be if there are a group of girls that hang out, and they are all friends, but a select few get together exclusively without telling the others. Are you and your friends in a clique? Are you and your friends excluding others (intentionally or unintentionally)? These are a couple questions you and your friends should discuss and think about. 


Stay strong and stay positive, 
Courtney Jay 💜


Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Cyberbullied?

According to the dictionary cyber bullying is the use of cell phones, instant messaging, e-mail, chat rooms or social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter to harass, threaten or intimidate someone. Cyber bullying is one of today's more used forms of bullying because it is simply at the palms of ours hands. Sending messages anonymously seems a lot easier to do than physically harassing someone, which is why it is so common. A popular website/app called Ask.fm was and still is a huge bullying platform, you can ask questions anonymously to anyone with an ask.fm account. The site was created to ask curious questions you have about someone such as, "What's your favorite color?" Or "did you go to summer camp last year?” Our youth quickly realized you could virtually say anything, here are a couple questions from my personal ask.fm, "Why are you always with ur mom? Lol ur a loser it's sad." and, "I don't think your clothes match....like the most recent pic on your Instagram. That doesn't match at all and ur hair looks nasty. sorry to break it to you!" I say all of this to say, words can really hurt. As I stated before, cyber bullying is one of today's most common ways to bullying or harass someone.

If you are being cyber bullied do not respond or retaliate, simply tell an adult and save the evidence.

Stay strong and stay positive,

Courtney Jay 💜