Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Girl Fight

You may have a little sister, "mini-me", or a daughter. Are they being bullied? Well this blog is for them! Girls bully very differently than boys which is why I split these blogs into two weeks. 

Here are some things to look out for if you suspect girl bullying:
- they spread rumors 
- they often verbally harass 
- girl groups gang up on one individual
- emotional violence 
- cruel jokes or mocking 


Look out for these common factors among your daughters, "mini-me", or little sister. By simply talking to them you can help them through their situation. I am very close to my mom and she helps me with her words of wisdom. I have little cousins who I help as much as I can as well. Next week we will talk about boy bullying so stay tuned!  


Stay Strong & Stay Positive, 
Courtney Jay 💜

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Effects Of Bullying

Hi Bashers! This week we are going to talk about some lasting impacts of bullying. There are so many people that think the victims gets over it which is not always the case. Bullying can cause long term issues that may require counseling or therapy.

- More than 4,000 teens commit suicide a year due to bullying.

- Some people suffer stress related illnesses such as: anxiety, panic attacks, stomach issues, and depression.

- Many students who are bullied have a decrease in their academic performance, and have a desire to skip school or drop out.

I hope that simply after reading these few facts, you will understand that bullying is harsh. You should always be kind to others because you don't know their situation. Thanks for reading and stay tuned next week for another letter! 

Stay Strong & Stay Positive,
Courtney Jay 💜

Monday, February 1, 2016

A Letter To My Bystanders

This weeks blog is a letter to my bystanders. As I stated a few blogs ago according to Merriam - Webster dictionary a bystander is: a person who is standing near but not taking part in what is happening. 

Dear Bystanders,

You all were my friends, but you were also the friends of my bully. You saw me be tormented, embarrassed, and humiliated daily. I'm not sure if you ever told them to stop, but it didn't seem like it. I understand if you were torn on choosing friends, but why did you always choose the bully over me. Is it because you wanted to be in the "in-crowd"? When we were in private you would express your sympathy, but made excuses about why you never said anything. You said things like you don't want to be picked on too or left out. I looked to you all for a shoulder to lean on, or some support, but you were never there. 

Looking back on it, you all really made a difference in my life. You all taught me another important life lesson, to always stand up for yourself and others. You all helped shape the pledge for Bash Out Bullying where I prominently state that you should stand up for everyone. Maybe at the time you simply did not know what a bystander was or maybe you didn't think you were one. Whichever the case may be, please remember that standing up for someone can help so much, you can help the bullying stop or you can even save a life.

Stay strong and stay positive,
Courtney Jay 💜